Dating rules for single moms
Liking her kids isn't the same as raising her kids. Be ready for rapid-fire spontaneity or an ironclad calendar. There is nothing more beautiful than a joyful child.
You might have some really great ideas about how you think she could do things, and you might have some strong ideas about how children should behave. You're at the mercy of custody agreements, parent-teacher conferences, skinned knees, stuffy noses, and — buy her wine for this one — lice. Throw everything you know about Sunday Funday out the window.
The gal that you're interested in dating is a single mom. You're drawn to her because she is very mature and independent (and beautiful, no doubt)—you like that.
But along with her fears, feelings, and needs that you have to be willing to give your all to, she might have a few kids that will need that same sort of support and love as well.
The female race is an elusive and intimidating breed. In fact, I would venture to say that there are times when even they don't know what they’re thinking, so you have GOT to be on your toes. Once you think you've got them figured out, you get clocked in the head with their purse, and you have to look for another gal to date.
Now that you've got some fond (or not-so-fond) memories of dating bouncing around in your head, I'm going to throw another element into the mix that will make the dating game a little more advanced.
Yes, moms are really efficient and they’re used to doing a lot of cooking and cleaning.
But if a single mom invites you over for dinner — whether a romantic evening for two, or with her kids — she had to clean up a whole lot of Legos and finger paint and sting cheese wrappers, and wrangles in an extra trip to the market and wine store to make it happen.
Respect that it’s a big deal when she introduces you to her kids.Glazed old-fashioned might be the closest thing to a Bloody Mary you both can get. Speaking of Bloody Marys, hangovers aren't an option anymore. Be supportive if she complains about him, but whatever you do, don't talk badly about him in front of the kids (it's actually included in many custody agreements; don't make a sticky situation stickier). She can't just see how the night goes and stay out as long as she might want. Handling what life serves is her modus operandi — she's been handling it since before you came along, and she's prepared to handle it if you leave. Pamper her because you admire her Terminator strength to always keep going.13. If you want to whisk her away for a romantic weekend, offer to help with the parental logistics so she's relaxed on her trip, not distracted with worry. It's not about being in your 20s or your 30s or your 40s; it's about keeping it together during a living room performance of 9. It's very likely he will be a large part of her life for at least the next 18 years, so get used to it. Babysitters are people too, and good ones are a hot commodity. If she told the babysitter she'd be home by 11, make sure she's home by 11! Goldfish crackers and Band-aids are never far away. Hand sanitizer, Chapstick, a small dinosaur, some crayons, or a flashlight? ’ Yes, well, that’s because you were with your boy.” Dating for two is difficult; dating in a crowd is downright complicated.The kids are engaged, at least on some level, even when you don’t think they are.